Is contraception a man's or a woman's thing for you? I've been in a solid relationship again for a few months. In the beginning, there was no question at all for me that as a woman I would take care of contraception during sex, as in my previous relationship. My friend doesn't seem to care much about contraception. Of course I don't think that's okay! Before I talk to him about it, I wanted to know how you guys handle it in your relationship? Who is responsible for contraception in your relationship? Woman or man or do you take care of contraception together? How does it work for you?
I think both must take care of contraception! In my relationship, I immediately looked for a conversation and didn't fall on deaf ears with my boyfriend. We use condoms for contraception, because I would prefer not to take the pill because of the side effects.
We have a clear agreement that we will not sleep together without a condom. And if we don't have one, then there is no sex either! But then you can just cuddle together, that's really nice too :)
Many couples seem to be reluctant to talk about contraception. But that's not a taboo subject! You are already informed at school about the most beautiful minor matter in the world, including the risks.
I think, especially in a relationship, you should be open to each other and be able to express your point of view. But I have to admit that I have had relationships in which it took me some time to get my partner on track.
I think it's a good idea to tell your partner that contraception affects both partners in a relationship. Think about what happens when you take antibiotics and the pill loses its effect.
Find the whole contraceptive thing unfair anyway. Most of the time, the guys don't really care about birth control and leave it to the women. And as a woman you take it on yourself, maybe you have an IUD inserted, you may be in pain, and your partner didn't do anything for contraception. As if we didn't have enough problems with menstruation already.
I think you should talk to your partner in peace. Because contraception is not just a woman's business! Just remember that you can get diseases through sexual intercourse! That means you could infect him too. Condoms therefore also serve to keep you safe, apart from getting pregnant!