I think my boyfriend is cheating on me! What should I do?
For a long time I have suspected that my boyfriend is cheating on me. We've been together for almost six years, we've had some problems for quite some time, and he's not been home before eight o'clock almost every day since then. When I ask him where he has been, he just says it's none of my business. What should I do?
Well, it's hard to find out. Probably the safest thing is to spy on him. But you have to be extra careful. Checking his cell phone doesn't help. If he has something to hide and is smart, he always deletes all messages on a regular basis. My ex always did it that way, the ***. Better go after him. Do you know when he always has quitting time? Maybe you should be close on his heels a little. But don't get caught!
I think you shouldn't worry too much about it! Many couples have problems in a relationship. This is completely normal. Maybe he just needs some air to breathe after work. Instead of asking where he was, you should do it differently. Make a delicious meal for him. And when he comes home and it calms his mind because he's not being controlled, then maybe he'll talk to you too. Why don't you ask him how he's doing, whether he's having problems? Maybe something is bothering him about you? Often times it's just a little something.
Maybe he has a good reason to hide something from you? Do you have an anniversary soon or is it your birthday and he is preparing a surprise for you?
But even if you have stress. It may be that he thinks it's up to him and now he wants to make it up to you. Don't put both of you under such pressure. Give both of you space and try to talk to each other. You've been a couple for six years. You shouldn't throw that away lightly!
Vielleicht nicht ganz nett, aber wenn du ganz sicher sein willst, dann schau auf sein Handy. Aber pass auf, dass er nichts merkt und dich nicht erwischt. Aber an deiner Stelle würde ich mir das vorher zweimal überlegen. Wenn er wirklich nichts Verwerfliches macht und dich erwischt, kann es sein, dass deine Beziehung komplett zerbrochen ist.
I would persist and when he comes home I keep asking where he was! At some point, he'll get so annoyed by it that he'll give you an answer. If that doesn't help, take some time off and withdraw from it. Go to a friend's house or a hotel for a few days. It is important that you do not tell him anything about it beforehand. If he then tries to find out where you are and is worried, then you can be more certain that there is a high probability that he is not cheating and doing something other than being with a strange woman. But of course no one can give you a one hundred percent guarantee - unless they confess to a potential affair.
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