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by Single

Why can't I find a man?

I'm 28 years old and I've been single for years. I've tried finding a guy on many dating sites, gone out endlessly to finally find a man to start a family with. But again and again I meet men who do not want to commit themselves tightly, are afraid of missing out on something or who are like children themselves. What do I have to do to finally find the right man?

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by Single
You still have enough time! You don't have to rush anything just because you think you're ready for something that you may not be ready for yet. Maybe the men you've met so far are somehow right too? Nowadays it is no longer absolutely necessary to get everything wrapped up before you are 30 and many doors are open afterwards. Have you already done everything and experienced everything that is on your 'pre-family startup' list? Are you happy with the person who you have become? Sometimes we are too compulsive to find a partner because we want at least someone who loves us instead of working on ourselves and being really satisfied with ourselves and our lives. Take some time to set goals and find out what you really want.


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by Single
Could it be that you may have internalized some kind of 'type of man'? I often hear from many friends that they always fall in love with men who all seem to have the same flaws. You're chasing after some kind of guy. Most of the time you do this unconsciously, but always end up with something you weren't really looking for.
I would recommend that you pay attention to which characteristics you fall into so often and you should think about whether you consider these characteristics to be important in a relationship in the long term and which characteristics should actually be important to you. If you know exactly what else you want, but what does not fit into your desire for the future, it is much easier for you to see in the getting to know phase whether it will also fit in the long term. And in the end, you just have to be patient. Even if you have the feeling that your 'biological clock is ticking' it is important not to lose this patience. And as long as you wait you should enjoy your time as a single and have fun!