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How do I get over my ex boyfriend?

My boyfriend broke up with me almost 3 months ago. I actually got through the breakup pretty well. The only problem is that my ex-boyfriend and I have almost the same circle of friends. In addition, we are still volunteering in the same association. Unfortunately, that's why we see each other regularly at least twice a week. We actually still get along quite well, we also parted peacefully on good terms, but I have the feeling that I can't really get over him and that I can start a new beginning as long as I keep seeing him so often. My biggest fear is that he will start something with one of my friends or another woman from the club and then I could get back into the heartache. The whole situation is really tricky. What can I do?

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by Single
Find a new boyfriend, it always helps me in such situations. Getting back on your feet quickly is more fun than getting stuck in a past relationship!


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by Single
Start focusing on yourself! In any case, you should first distance yourself from the whole situation and rebuild yourself after the breakup. Often your own ego suffers a lot from separations, so make sure that you feel better again quickly and that there is no lack of distraction! And allow yourself to be lovesick for once, it doesn't hurt to be sad at the beginning, to cry a little and to watch love films with good friends and to eat ice cream. You just can't let yourself go too long and sink too deeply into self-pity. The motto is to be a little sad but then look forward to the future again! After all, you now have the time and space to realize yourself and to do something new! Take this opportunity!

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by Single
You should just learn to deal with it. It's easier said than done, but I wouldn't change that much if I were you. If you were okay with leaving the club or making new friends, wouldn't you ask that question? So you will continue to see each other often, but you have to accept that there was a reason for your separation and that life goes on. There is no point in excluding yourself from everything. It can be hurtful to see him with other women, but if you care about volunteering and your friends, you will get through it.

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by Single
In such a situation, it makes most sense to try something new to distract yourself. Do something with friends, but make sure that these are not meetings with the whole clique. Maybe look for a new voluntary position or reduce the time you spend in your club. Time will give you enough distance to get over it. Then you can spend more time in the club again and maybe even become friends again, as long as there is no tension.