Why can't I cope without a woman by my side?
For some time now, I've been living alone. Unfortunately, my wife left me, and somehow I notice that my apartment is becoming more and more neglected. The dishes are piling up in the kitchen, and the laundry is turning into a mountain that I can hardly handle. I've also become less attentive to personal hygiene. Somehow, every day feels the same, and everything seems to be becoming indifferent to me.
Why can't I get along with myself anymore since my wife separated from me?
For the next relationship, you might want to take to heart that it's not possible without compromises. Just holding back does not work in a relationship in the long run. Attention and respect for your partner should be the top priorities in a relationship.
Perhaps your wife left you because, bit by bit, you handed over your responsibilities to her. Not many women can endure that in the long run. Is it possible that she addressed your role in the relationship, and you simply didn't take notice?
You should learn to be more responsible again. If you can't do it on your own, bring someone you trust to your side who can give you advice.
This sounds to me like a growing depression. I believe that you should definitely seek help. There's no need to be embarrassed about it. I know some people in my circle who felt the same way after a breakup.
Personally, I don't think it's healthy when one person in a relationship becomes dependent on the other. While it may be nice to have everything taken care of, that's precisely the point. You become complacent and forget how to take responsibility. However, the person who takes on everything should receive some recognition. This doesn't mean flowers need to be on the table every day, but acknowledgment is crucial in a partnership.
It might also be a good idea to confide in a close friend. Keeping everything bottled up inside won't make things better. If you prefer talking to someone neutral, you should consider reaching out to a specialist.
It sounds like you relied too much on your ex-wife. It was probably very convenient for you to have everything taken care of. Perhaps you've always had everything done for you, and as a result, you never learned how to manage a household. A separation is not easy for either party. However, you don't have to completely let yourself go. Get back into life, and your situation will change.
