Why am I always so quickly bored by men?
I have been looking for a partner for a while, and I often meet nice men. However, after some time, I always encounter the same problem – my interest diminishes, even if the men make a considerable effort. I wonder why these nice men always bore me so quickly. I'm starting to believe that there might be something wrong with me.
Could it perhaps be that you're feeling bored because you don't really want to commit inwardly, maybe even have a fear of forming a connection? In that case, one tends to quickly start looking for flaws in the other person and weighing small things on the scales. Concentrate on yourself and your needs, and then you will realize what you truly want and can pre-filter candidates who don't fit in advance.
In my opinion, the problem lies in the fact that both women and men have too high expectations regarding their partners. It is expected that the partner should fulfill these expectations, and if they cannot, one becomes bored or generally dissatisfied.
I recently read an article that I can only agree with, stating that one must be happy and content with oneself independently of others before embarking on a search for a partner. This is because one is responsible for their own happiness, and in many relationships, there is a mistaken belief that a partner should make one happy.
So, I believe that if you are content with yourself, the right partner will come naturally.
Have you ever considered that maybe you're just not in love with the men you meet? I myself searched for a partner for a long time and almost gave up on it. I know this initial excitement and passion that suddenly turns into yawning boredom. I've often wondered if something was wrong with me, but what was wrong was simply the fact that I wasn't really in love with the people I knew.
At times, I also put a lot of pressure on myself to finally enter into a partnership because I was the only single person in my circle of friends. But instead of forcing yourself into a relationship where you may feel from the beginning that it won't develop further, you should just be patient and trust that you'll know when the right one comes along. It sounds cliché, but eventually, it will just click.
I don't believe that there's anything wrong with you. Often, one just doesn't feel attracted to the nice guys, or one has such high expectations that no one can meet them. For me, I also always brush off the nice guys and end up falling for the 'bad boy' type. I once read that it could also be psychologically conditioned when one consistently falls for the same type of man. Chin up, things will get better!
