My wife cheated on me! How do I get to trust her again?
I'm usually not a suspicious person, but when my wife started looking into her smartphone some time ago (it all started about a year ago) and just didn't notice me anymore, I wanted to know what was there going on. So I just checked her cell phone and hoped I couldn't find anything bad. I know I shouldn't have done that. I don't usually do that either, but it all felt very strange to me.
Actually, I've always assumed that we don't have any problems in our relationship. So my horror was all the greater when I discovered that my wife had written to another man. I immediately confronted her. At first she denied everything and told me that this didn't mean anything and that I shouldn't be jealous until she finally confessed to me that she had a sexual affair with this man. Yes, had! But out of love for me, she ended this affair again shortly afterwards and there would certainly be nothing more going on. Since the last message from the guy was some time ago, I believed her.
I am done with this topic. Still, I just can't trust her anymore. Do you have any tips for me on how I can trust her again? Because I still love her more than anything and don't want to lose her to another guy because of jealousy.
My ex-wife also cheated on me a few years ago. I truly loved my wife more than anything, and I can only tell you that if you truly love a woman, fight for her and your relationship. It won't be easy, and you'll have to put in continuous effort. But believe me, it can be worth it. It took me about two years back then to trust my wife again. There was always a certain level of mistrust, but it faded over time. We always talked a lot. I also asked her why she did it. She thought I didn't love her anymore. I have to admit, I spent a lot of time on my job and hobbies back then, neglecting my wife a bit. Do a lot of things together and simply have a good time. I wish you all the best for your relationship and hope that you can trust again!
I haven't had such negative experiences myself, but I know the problem from my parents. My parents cheated on each other a few years ago. My father took revenge on my mother and he found a lover. Unfortunately, that only made things worse and today they are divorced.
I would have liked to give you more hope, but unfortunately this is not to fix. I hope that you might find another deal with your wife and I wish you all the best for the future.
Hello, I'm really sorry that this happened to you. I have already had experience with it and I can only tell you that it will no longer work. I am convinced that your wife will soon be looking for other men again. Unfortunately, that was the case with me too. Sooner or later I had to part with my wife. Maybe that's the best for you too!