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by Single

True love or just an affair?

Since my marriage fell apart three years ago, I've been single. I am 36 years old and would consider myself attractive. I regularly go out with girlfriends, where I also meet various men, but it never turns into anything serious.

Now I've met a man here on freshsingle. We've been writing and chatting for five or six months, discussing our wishes and visions, painting a picture of a shared future. We seem to have many common interests, and he also looks incredibly good in his pictures. He seems perfect!

There's just one problem: He is married! Although he says he wants to separate from his wife, I know how much men like to make promises. Now he wants to meet with me. I want to as well, but I have concerns. I don't want to be just a adventure for him. What should I do?

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by Single
Why not give it a try? Meet up with him and get to know him. I wouldn't immediately let him get too close; that way, you'll see where his interests lie. If he's genuinely interested in you, he'll wait for sexual experiences. Take it slow; a casual meeting is just the thing for that.


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by Single
Stay away from him; he probably just wants to have some fun with you. An affair will only lead to disappointment for you, and haven't you had enough of that after your divorce? Focus on men who are unattached and genuinely serious. After all, you've mentioned that you've already met a few of them.

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by Single
Have you ever seen him live so far? Like on webcam? If not, you should catch up on that first. If he has excuses, then spare yourself any further thoughts about him.