My boyfriend's back on fS online - break up or give him another chance?
Hey freshsingles, I need your thoughts and advice on this. So, I met my boyfriend on freshsingle about a year ago. When we decided to get serious, I deleted my fS profile and canceled my membership. I never asked if he did the same, but I just assumed he would.
Two weeks ago, I googled his usual nickname for fun and found his profile still active on here. So I signed up again to check when he was last online. Turns out, he was online right then! And he’d told me he wasn’t feeling great and wanted to spend the evening alone at his place.
Yesterday, I confronted him about it. He just said he pops on every now and then but isn’t looking at other women. Maybe I’m too naive and letting him sweet-talk me, but I don’t buy it! He promised to delete his profile, but he still hasn’t.
Now I’m super torn. Part of me thinks you don’t just end a relationship over something like this, but the smarter part of me knows this could be the beginning of the end. Plus, I don’t want to be with a guy I can’t fully trust, especially if he’s still hanging out on dating sites.
I’m sure I’m not the only one who’s been through this. Some of you must have dealt with something similar. What would you do in my shoes? Break it off right away or give him another shot?
To revisit the situation: Your boyfriend never claimed he was going to deactivate his account here. He wanted to spend that evening alone because he wasn’t feeling well. Even when someone’s feeling off, they might still log on briefly—that doesn’t necessarily mean there’s a contradiction.
His claim that he’s only on a dating site for entertainment might sound strange at first, but it’s not entirely implausible. If he had ulterior motives, he’d likely have used a different username to sign up.
Have an open conversation with him about your concerns and emphasize how important it is to you that he deactivates his freshsingle account. Ending the relationship immediately based solely on what you’ve described would be hasty.
Alright, first off: it’s impossible for an outsider to judge someone else’s relationship! But I’ll try to give you a few words of advice anyway.
No question, it’s pretty rough that your boyfriend didn’t tell you about his activities on fS. You said you “assumed” he’d told you back then and deleted his profile here. Sometimes you gotta address stuff like that directly if it matters to you (maybe you didn’t even realize it was important at the time). Now he’s promised to delete his profile, so you should hold him to that.
Could be he just likes the community here. Maybe he really hasn’t been flirting or anything. But your trust in him has taken a hit. Only thing that’ll help is talking to him. Tell him how you feel and what’s bothering you. Don’t rush into anything until then! You got this!
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