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How do you get happy as a single?

I have been single for so many years now and live alone. How do I get happy as a single? To be honest, I have given up hope of finding a partner with whom I can spend the rest of my life together. I came to terms with it and somehow resigned myself to it. But I'm not happy with the situation! But what else can I do :( Are there singles here who feel the same? Do you have any tips to be happy as a single? If it is of interest, I am female.

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by Single
I know how you feel. And from experience, I can say that your attitude of accepting being single isn't actually that bad, as it protects you from disappointments.

I've learned that as a single person, you shouldn't expect or hope for too much, as it only leads to disappointment. So, I've come to terms with it and try to see it positively, because I know from experience that even a relationship doesn't always bring happiness.

It's often the case that we desire exactly what we don't have at the moment. But that doesn't mean that you'll be permanently happy in a relationship or suddenly feel good about yourself.

You are solely responsible for your own happiness, whether you're single or in a relationship. Your partner isn't there to make you happy. On the contrary, there will be stress and disagreements.

My advice: Enjoy your time as a single person, relish your freedom while you can. Don't let your single status pressure you, but learn to appreciate it, because both being single and being in a relationship have their pros and cons. Then, you'll surely find happiness even as a single person!


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by Single
One should never give up hope as a single person! There's someone out there for everyone! This means that there is a partner out there who fits you and loves you just the way you are. As you yourself write, you seem to be dissatisfied with your single life. But giving up and resigning just because of setbacks in your search for a partner— I don't know. What's stopping you from giving the search for a partner another try?

If you've truly come to terms with the idea of being single forever: To be happy as a single person, you have to try to accept the situation of being single or learn to cope with it in order to find happiness alone. However, I urge you to give dating another shot and find yourself a partner. Resignation is the wrong path!