I feel so damn lonely all the time and I basically have zero friends. What can you even do about this kind of loneliness?
Hey everyone,
Lately I’ve been feeling really isolated and just… alone pretty much constantly. I’ve been single for years now, live by myself, and honestly I don’t have any real friends either. It wouldn’t hit me so hard if it weren’t for this heavy wave of loneliness that crashes in whenever I’m bored or have nothing going on. Anyone else know exactly what I mean? Does anyone else struggle with this too?
It’s especially brutal at night when I’m just sitting on the couch, or when I’m on vacation — those times make it ten times worse. Even at work I barely talk to people.
What actually helps with feeling this lonely? How do people get out of this hole? For me, not having friends hurts way more than not having a partner. Year after year I just feel more miserable and more cut off. It’s seriously wearing me down.
I totally get it – especially during the cold months, it’s really easy to slip into a bit of a funk or feel kind of down. Even though it’s the last thing you feel like doing… force yourself to get out of the house. Just going to the pool, walking through a park, or hanging out somewhere public can lead to random conversations and meeting people.
Fall festivals and Christmas markets will be starting up again soon too – those are actually great places to chat with people and feel the energy.
Do you enjoy sports at all? Think about joining a rec league or a club team – lots of people meet their partner that way. Or even just showing up to an interesting lecture or event at a university can work wonders. Plenty of couples started exactly like that.
Whatever you do, please don’t hibernate. 🫶 Get out there, even if it’s just small steps at first.
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