I was lonely too and worked my way out of isolation step by step. My biggest tip: Don’t put pressure on yourself, and do things you actually enjoy.

When loneliness hits hard and the pain of being alone gets tough, what helped me was distraction through good food, great music, nice scents, and especially working out. Exercise releases opioids in your body. Your tension and the blues fade away, you feel less abandoned and not as lonely. On top of that, those opioids boost your social drive. Your mood lifts, good vibes push the loneliness aside, and you become more open to connecting with other people. So the way out of loneliness really starts with yourself!

Humans are social creatures. We need relationships in life. It makes total sense that you’re feeling sad after coming out of a strong romantic relationship and not being able to share your life as deeply with someone anymore. That’s why it’s important to find some alternative “partners.” Those can be people you hang out with for fun or workout buddies.

Try building and maintaining new friendships where you can open up freely and draw some strength from them.
If you’d rather spend time alone, watching shows might help. Studies show that people tend to identify with the characters and kind of live their lives alongside them, which can make you feel less lonely. But treat TV only as a supporting tool against loneliness. Don’t turn into a total couch potato or cut yourself off from the real world. Use watching shows just as a way to distract yourself from being single. Try to connect with people as often as you can, whether that’s small talk at the grocery store or hitting the gym.

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Sorry to hear that. I totally get where you’re coming from ... about six months ago I was in pretty much the same boat. I’ve been single for a while too and barely had any contact with people. Know how I fixed that? I got my ass off the couch and just started going out. I went places by myself at first. Mostly bars in the beginning, because they’re less chaotic than clubs. I didn’t even have to try that hard — conversations with cool people just kind of happened on their own. You into music? A club on the weekend could be a good way to meet people too. Yeah, Mr. Right might be there, but that’s not the main thing right now.

I also got back on social media. That’s how I reconnected with some old classmates. We hung out and have been friends again ever since. You can also find people with the same interests through groups on there. Even just messaging strangers (who you can always take things further with later if it feels right) was a total game-changer for me. Might be for you too?

Anyway, you’re not alone. There are tons of people online dealing with the same stuff. It’s way easier to meet people that way and get yourself out of that lonely routine.

Good luck!

I totally get it – especially during the cold months, it’s really easy to slip into a bit of a funk or feel kind of down. Even though it’s the last thing you feel like doing… force yourself to get out of the house. Just going to the pool, walking through a park, or hanging out somewhere public can lead to random conversations and meeting people.

Fall festivals and Christmas markets will be starting up again soon too – those are actually great places to chat with people and feel the energy.

Do you enjoy sports at all? Think about joining a rec league or a club team – lots of people meet their partner that way. Or even just showing up to an interesting lecture or event at a university can work wonders. Plenty of couples started exactly like that.

Whatever you do, please don’t hibernate. 🫶 Get out there, even if it’s just small steps at first.

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