He's always seeking physical contact - what's his deal?
So there's this coworker of mine who's constantly getting touchy with me. I'm wondering what's up with that? We get along pretty well, I like him as a colleague. I've always kept work and personal life completely separate. Starting something with a coworker is just not something I'd ever consider. Plus I know from him that he's married so I'd never go there anyway. But lately he's been getting noticeably close to me, sometimes tickling me, always finding ways to have physical contact. Is he into me, like maybe wanting an affair? Or is he just being friendly? It's starting to feel a bit suspicious and sometimes even a little pushy. Thing is we work really well together professionally. I'm worried if I say something to him he'll feel hurt and it might mess up our work relationship. What do you guys think - is he attracted to me and trying to start something like an affair, or is he just being friendly because he really likes me as a person with no ulterior motives? Do guys even do that?
To me, as a guy, this just sounds like your coworker genuinely likes you as a person and is trying to be nice to you.
Why do women always immediately assume that if a man is just being friendly, he must only want one thing?
Not every guy is trying to start an affair and jump into bed with his female coworker the second he acts friendly…
Hi, it’s tough to judge from a distance, but it’s definitely possible your coworker might be interested in an affair. Maybe things aren’t going great in his marriage, and he’s looking for some excitement.
I totally get that you’re not into getting involved with a married man. As long as he’s not being too pushy, I’d suggest not reacting just yet. If he’s genuinely just trying to keep a good work vibe, you might hurt his feelings by being standoffish. Maybe bring it up jokingly and see how he responds.
Sounds like a tricky situation! Sure, he might mean nothing by it. How does he act around other female colleagues? Is he all touchy-feely with them too? And has he always been this "friendly" with you, or are these touches something new? If it’s the latter, I’d say it’s pretty obvious he’s into you!
Guys rarely start touching women out of the blue if that’s not their usual vibe. That said, it doesn’t automatically mean he’s after an affair. Maybe he’s genuinely caught feelings?
Either way, since mixing work and personal life isn’t your thing, I’d suggest setting boundaries in a friendly but firm way. You don’t have to call him out directly—use body language instead. Like, step back or turn away when he gets too close. He should get the hint without feeling offended.
Sounds to me like he really likes you and is just being friendly in a buddy kind of way. Does that mean he’s automatically down for an affair? You mentioned he’s got a family! Not every guy who finds another woman attractive is gonna cheat.
Is he your boss or are you guys on the same level at work? If you’re equals, I’d maybe playfully tell him to keep his hands to himself. If he’s your boss or higher up, that’s trickier to handle.
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