It just doesn't work with women ... why?
I've been single for more than a year now. I just can't find a woman! Actually, I look pretty good. Get at least mostly positive feedback from the women. I attach great importance to my appearance. I have a neat appearance, I am always well-groomed, can articulate myself well, I am eloquent.
In the beginning I tried online dating for a while, but I'm more of the type who prefers to flirt in real life than to write back and forth for a long time. If I like a woman, I address her directly on the street. Since I'm a communicative person, I have no problem with that. I have already received a lot of phone numbers from nice women. But either there is no first meeting at all (the women back down and talk their way out) or after the first date it's Finito. This of course frustrates me because it scratches my self-confidence and I never find out the reason why it finally failed. I want nothing more than a real relationship with a woman. I don't want to be single any longer and live alone forever.
A quick example. The last time I talked to a nice woman in real life, it was the middle of the week, we talked only briefly but very nicely. When she then had to go on, she gave me her cell phone number and said: "I would be really happy if you contact me". At the beginning of the weekend I sent her a text message and asked her if she would like to continue our conversation. She then replied to me and wrote: "Yes, I would like to, get in touch with me when you have the time." Then I invited her for a coffee on Sunday evening. She wrote back that she will contact me again about Sunday. I didn't hear from her anymore!
This has happened to me a lot now. I'm really desperate and have already lost the desire to flirt a little. What am I doing wrong? Am I too brash? Do I scare the ladies? What do you think, what could be the reason?
Perhaps it is simply because many women find addressing them directly on the street to be too intrusive. Maybe they'll say yes at first or give you their number because, on the one hand, they naturally like that you seem to find them attractive. At the same time, however, they may get 'cold feet' because they may think that you do this all the time and may also address other women in the same way. That could be one reason why they seem to react positively at first and then let the whole thing fall asleep again.
Basically, I think it's good that you prefer the real address, but maybe you should do that in an environment where you can generally expect greater interest from women, for example in a club or bar.
Not every woman likes this direct way and how do you then kindly cancel a date? Or maybe it's the way you talk to the women, what topics you talk to them about, and so on. You can speculate a lot, but none of that does any good.
It just doesn't make sense to worry about why. You should just stay yourself, not pretend, and with a smile you can get very far with most women. In addition, you shouldn't be too brash, everyone likes to hear compliments, but as a woman you often hear the same thing and that's annoying. At some point you will find the right woman, just don't get so stuck on finding the right woman. When you least expect it, the right woman will come.
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