I Got Dumped Do I Have a Second Chance?
One thing in advance. I am totally in love up to my ears! Many will think it's great. Only problem is, I fell in love with a friend! And worst of all, I already confessed my love to her and got dumped from her when I asked her if she could imagine anything more than friendship.
We have known each other for several years. I've always found her very attractive. In the past few months - I can't say how long it has been - I've noticed that I feel more for her than just friendship. That is why I have met with her alone in the past, to eat, have a drink, go to the cinema and, most recently, at her home. I always felt that she was interested in me, just as I was interested in her. At least that's how I always thought it based on various situations, and looking back, maybe even imagined it.
I'm more of the shy, reserved guy, so I didn't tell her about it until yesterday. Since my love or the feeling of being in love has gotten stronger and stronger in me lately and I finally wanted to know if she feels the same for me, I took all my courage and asked her if she could no longer imagine herself as friendship . Unfortunately I got dumped for that. However, I don't understand her reaction, because of all the great activities that we have experienced together.
My feelings for her have not changed since then. Do you think that maybe she could reconsider it and is just not interested at the moment, or should I draw a line and not dare to try again? Thanks for your opinion!
Well, I wouldn't throw the helve after the hatchet just yet if I were really in love. First give her a little time, let her think about it. With a little distance, she might see it in a similar way to you. Feelings can only develop for someone afterwards. If not, I would try again at most and only then draw the line. And always remember that the person you are talking to also needs air to breathe. Never get pushy and accept someone else's decision.
If it really should be the case that she feels nothing for you except friendship, you have to decide whether it makes sense to continue the friendship like this. This is usually much more difficult than before and many cannot do it that way either! But it's good that you had the courage! Respect!
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