No success with men?
Hello, my problem is, I have no success with men! Why is that? What can I do to be successful with a man so that he finds me attractive and also falls in love with me?
I am a teacher. I am registered on various free dating sites and even on a paid matchmaking agency. In the last six months, I had about 9 dates where I met men. They were all very nice and polite. I usually exchanged phone numbers with them after the dates and always had a very good feeling. One promised to call me but didn't. Another even went dancing with me the same evening and praised my sexy dancing style. A third told me that his son would surely be happy if a woman like me were with his dad. However, none of the 9 contacted me again. When I asked, each had a different reason for rejecting me.
What could be the reason that I have no success with men? Am I maybe not attractive enough anymore? I'm not really an unattractive woman. Did I make it too easy for the men? Was I too open? Did they all just want a one-night adventure? Or have I simply not had the right feeling for the right man so far? I always dress up nicely for the dates. Was I maybe always too styled and awkwardly dressed in my little dresses?
I am single myself and know from experience that often neither party is 'at fault' if a date doesn't progress further. No matter how much two people like each other, sometimes the spark just isn't there. Neither party is looking for a friendship but rather a relationship.
One thing I've noticed: You seem very committed to finding a man – perhaps a bit too much – which can come across as forced. Try to relax more and approach dating with a lighter attitude. You don't always have to look perfect! Instead, just try to have fun while dating and only go to bed with one of your dates if you genuinely want to, regardless of whether anything comes of it later on or not.
Hi!
Maybe you're putting too much effort into your appearance? You mention making an extra effort to look smart on the first date. Why not just be yourself, as you are in everyday life? When in doubt, opt for a more understated style, not too sexy. Take your time getting to know the man slowly. That way, you won't risk coming across as cheap or just for one night!
Just talk to him; perhaps he's been waiting for you to make the first move!
Comment by Single
I don't know how you dress for a date (baggy attire?), but I want to present my best self to my potential ideal man. It's not about being a 'cheap chick'. I simply enjoy dressing in a sexy manner, and I'm confident in my appearance! Nevertheless, thank you for your advice...
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